Kommunikationsliebe

Hello, dear non-male fellow human beings.

The room is silent, except for the sound of a single voice.

After the relatively huge response to my last AI post about the conflict at CCC Hamburg, I asked an AI: “When someone reacts to conflicts by calling for ‘popcorn’ or (metaphorically) eating it, like in a movie theater, and makes that known to the people i…

Because the conspiracy of silence most often follows the trauma, it is the most prevalent and effective mechanism for the transmission of trauma on all dimensions.

A conflict at the Chaos Computer Club Hamburg involving a “90% ban” is being discussed on Mastodon right now.

While many people know what bullying is, we talk far too little about a quieter but just as effective form of social violence: ostracism, the deliberate act of making someone socially invisible.

joepie91: I really do not enjoy the response to what happened being a lot of vague posts combined with people looking for someone or something to immediately and decisively blame (within Chaos circles or otherwise), instead of taking a moment to emotional…

“It has been suggested that when one is excluded from a group, it is a mortality salience cue.

In March 2025, the CCC arbitration board decided retroactively that the (external!)

I have deliberately chosen a provocative title here to draw attention to an unfortunate dynamic that comes with dealing with the topic of interpersonal violence.

Instead of just trusting someone who’s done exactly this kind of thing a hundred times before — and who’s also, provably, among the top experts in the field — people demand that criticism be expressed “objectively,” “through the proper channels,” “without…

overflo: TL;DR: Good luck, metalab.

In Western culture, we are socialized to believe that the desire to inflict counterviolence upon or retaliate against someone who has hurt us or a loved one is innate and that justice has always been done and will always be done in this way.

From our point of view, ideally, just as every lay person should know how to provide basic physical emergency first aid in order to help those who are physically injured and prevent further harm before emergency teams arrive to the scene, the same should…

There is a difference between : not liking someone behavior which justifies kicking someone out of some space in a documented and transparent process making rumors and causing gossip about someone ending up in completely abstruse stories ruining someone’s…

“So that’s how humanity’s biggest conflicts get solved now: between two noses.

In response to a mailing list question: dear Chaos, can anyone here share some knowledge or resources on how to build sustainable social circles?

Ask yourself as an inhabitant of a hackerspace: how are conflicts solved in the community?

@gamambel I’m wondering – do you get into trouble professionally for allowing yourself to express your opinions publicly?

Like last year, there will be another (structured and moderated) opportunity at the 38th Chaos Communication Congress in Hamburg to discuss interpersonal violence, toxic relationship patterns, their backgrounds and dynamics, and in particular how to deal…

“The silent treatment is a form of social ostracization and a common tool used during conflict within many relationship types to inflict pain.

At this meeting at the 37th Chaos Communication Congress in Hamburg, we will collectively explore healing of toxic relationships and narcissistic abuse.

“What brings us together is not what we already know, but what we still want to learn.

The lecture, “On Living in a Traumatized Society,” will cover the current state of research on physical, psychological and emotional violence, and its links to traumatic experiences in childhood.

“Communicating non-violently means not only refraining from physical violence and obvious forms of verbal violence, such as threatening someone or calling them names.

(Originally a post on a CCC mailing list) Hey Chaos, (Please reply off-list and personally if possible.