tugba's blog

back in 2024, a few of my friends and i started a small book club, choosing a book each month and meeting online to discuss it. over time, it became harder to find a time that worked for everyone, so we decided to call it a day this month. we'll still keep

someone who keeps to themselves and is a little hard to read can seem really interesting from afar. when you don't know much about someone, there's room to imagine all sorts of things about them. then you get to know them and realize that maybe it wasn't…

i love the idea behind this website. there’s a whole section dedicated to dumbphone reviews, along with ideas for what to do offline and a guide to starting your own club: https://slowerliving.club/

whenever i read, i feel something close to what i feel when i meditate. the noise around me fades, and i’m just there with the book and my own thoughts. as i follow the words, i notice what they bring up in me. i’m not thinking about what i need to do nex…

there’s a difference between being constantly present on a screen and being present with someone in real life. i love spending time with friends and family, and i love meeting new people, too. but when online conversations never seem to end, i get so drai…

yesterday, i imagined a tree. today, i walk between pale walls, toward the light and the green leaves above. a small reminder that life is near. painting by john singer sargent

i imagined a tree today or maybe i saw one. i can’t quite tell the difference. it felt like all the possibilities had collapsed into one.

it is quiet enough to hear my own thoughts without following them. they come and go without asking to be understood, not as questions, not as things that need an answer, just little pieces of somewhere i have been.

on the beach at night alone, hong sang soo (2017)

effort gives us something to do. patience asks us to do almost nothing. to keep going without knowing when the answer will come. to accept that there are parts of our lives we cannot force into existence.

when something major happens in our lives, one of the biggest things we take away from it is a clearer sense of what is actually important in life. i believe an open and trusting heart is the best companion through it. if we come out of it with a heart th…

that is what drives us to write. once thoughts and feelings become words, they start to make more sense.

according to flynn skidmore, you can’t change through self-criticism. this idea strongly resonated with what i already had in mind, and i want to share his explanation of it: when we criticize ourselves, our nervous system perceives it as a threat. it tri…

ideas are like fish. if you want to catch little fish, you can stay in the shallow water. but if you want to catch the big fish, you've got to go deeper. the world is as you are. fifty years ago, people were saying, "everything's speeding up." twenty years

the bullet scene (link is below) from one of gondry’s music videos was the inspiration behind the bullet time effect in the matrix. smirnoff commercial (1996) - first bullet time effect the concept itself traces back further, drawing on the visual experim…

in psycho-cybernetics, maxwell maltz argues that constant anxiety about the future interferes with our ability to think clearly and solve problems effectively. one of the key ideas he discussed was living in "day-tight compartments," a concept he borrowed…

premonition of love a japanese term that describes the feeling of meeting someone and just knowing that a romantic connection is inevitable.

i remember the days when you didn’t hate me; when life didn’t cut so deep, when you were gentle with yourself. i’ve kept only that version of you, folded into the pages of my heart, like a pressed flower. everything else has faded, long gone into silence.

i refuse to become someone i'm not, just to make others feel whole. i’m not shrinking to soothe others’ unease, nor trade my truth for their comfort. if love demands my disappearance, then let it wither.

i’ve noticed that getting from point A to point B usually comes down to either reducing the number of steps or using the right tool. since it’s hard to always know the best tool for each situation, cutting down the steps tends to be the more reliable opti…